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Writer's pictureAshley Barber

Know the Patterns of Your Enemy; Protect Your Family

The holy spirit has placed this heavy on my heart to share such a prophetic message as this. For we all know that many of us endure losses during these times we call holidays. We often find ourselves in a state of bitterness, rejection, and abandonment during the time we feel we need to be appreciated the most. This has all been apart of a continuous cycle of love, hate and divorce, that brings so much calamity to our family structure, and most of all, our children. This past weekend, The holy spirit led me to see that the enemy has not changed in his attempts to completely ruin marriages, and families as a whole. Between Oct 30th, 2022, and Oct 31st, 2022, There was heavy witchcraft, and rituals done that resulted in a spirit of divorce, the demonic force of Jezebel, and the spirit of Azazel being unleashed upon the entire Earth. Now, I know this sounds quite apocalyptic, but check the title again; Know the Patterns of Your Enemy. This same thing has been occurring every year. This is why many people experience sudden break-ups, files for divorce, and bitter reactions. Its the reason why wounds from the past that have supposedly been forgiven all of a sudden resurface as an ongoing issue, that has not seen any evidence of growth. It is the reason why many people loose their spouses and loved ones and a lot of death occurs.


This is why I urge all of the saints, pastors, prophets, evangelists, and deacons and leaders of the church, community leaders and activists, and the entire body of Christ and believers to begin fasting and praying against this years' attacks that have been set in motion against your family, your marriage, and the family and marriage of others you know. It is an attempt to separate us, so that our children become vulnerable in a time where they need you the most. Do not let old wounds steal away the joy you have received in reconciliation, forgiveness and healing that you both have worked on all this time. Do not allow one thing said or done in a spirit of frustration and/or bitterness to destroy what Jesus/Yeshua has brought together. The philosophy of the world goes as follows; You cant stay for the sake of your kids... you gotta worry about your own happiness. This is so far from the truth. Yes, you may finally be relieved from a nagging wife or an inconsiderate husband, so to say....but the pain you will cause your children is worth the while thinking about. For one, most women and men alike agree, that they live, breathe and work to provide the best life for their children as they possibly can have. We often find it very hard to say no to our children, not wanting to see them sad, or disappointed. The decision to leave their mother, or father will be the most devastating thing you can ever do to your children. They will be depressed, they will wonder why, they will be confused, and you still will have to work with your spouse/ex, to help your children see things through. Also, many people experience a major loss, and having to start from scratch with almost everything can devastate you.


Weighing these consequences out with your reasoning for leaving can help you make the right decision. Asking someone who has been married for years and still together can help bring you clarity as to how many people make it through some of the same circumstances you may be enduring through, and how much them remaining together has helped/ not helped their children and family. However, as a believer, we are commanded to obey the commandments of Jesus and he pretty much sums it up very clearly for us in Mathew ch. 5 starting at verse 27-43, what we ought not to do concerning our marriages, and even offering faith- based advice to others, and how important keeping our vows are, and upholding the principals of forgiveness, and not seeking vengeance and being bitter.


Adultery

27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’[e] 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.


Divorce

31 “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’[f] 32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.


Oaths

33 “Again, you have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not break your oath, but fulfill to the Lord the vows you have made.’ 34 But I tell you, do not swear an oath at all: either by heaven, for it is God’s throne; 35 or by the earth, for it is his footstool; or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the Great King. 36 And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make even one hair white or black. 37 All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.[g]

(Being clear about what you can and cannot do, and what you will and will not accept, what you like and dislike is key in having a healthy marriage. No maybes or mights...yes is yes, and no is no. Do not be double-minded).


Eye for Eye

38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’[h] 39 But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. 40 And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. 41 If anyone forces you to go one mile, go with them two miles. 42 Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.

(Many of us are going through things where we feel bitter about doing anything for our spouse as a result of things being done to us or things that have happened in the past, as well as things being said or already said. Let us consider what Jesus has told us to do and not repay unkindness with unkindness and be dismissive to our spouse because we love Jesus and we live to serve Jesus and we want to obey his commandments).


Love for Enemies

43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor[i] and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46 If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? 47 And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? 48 Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.


We can clearly see we are called to be love...unconditional love in all circumstances. I believe most circumstances we face in our families and in marriages fall into these teachings. Therefore, we should guard ourselves with the breastplate of righteousness, which is building a new record of doing as Jesus commands and not the world, which can be hard, just as it is difficult for one to put on the breastplate by themselves. You need help...you need Jesus, and you need righteous fellowship and prayer. Above all, as the scripture often rights, the shield of faith, which is our trust in Jesus that when we act in unconditional love, that he will reward us, and that all circumstances will turn out for the good.


(Consider these things and help us spread this message to the saints, the believers, and our families, as well as those who may need this message in the world, to begin calling on the name of Jesus for help when we go thru things, not listening to the enemy tell us to divorce, to leave, ect. With consideration of those unequally yoked to an unbeliever; We are still called to love unconditionally. However, if a person insists they leave...do not fight but rather respond in prayer and love. Allow them to leave if they insist, but do not promote negativity or separation because Jesus has the last say. Being silent when being offended, abused, hurt can de-escalate the circumstance and if you have to separate, be it under the guidance of the holy spirit, always holding to the possibility of reconciliation by not having sex with someone else and reining faithful with your words and the keeping of your home and children)


Above all things...Lean on Jesus during these hard times and he will get you through and pray without ceasing.

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